I think in movies, in television, and in advice columns, often there’s this idea that what people are really attracted to is confidence. And I think people, especially young men, sometimes misinterpret that to mean being brash, or trying to be an alpha. That’s what’s attractive to the opposite sex, or to the same sex. But in my experience—and I feel bashful pontificating on the nature of attraction—I guess I feel like what’s actually attractive is confidence that doesn’t manifest as, like, silverback-ape behavior. Internal confidence. … Is this just word salad?

Zach Woods in the Woods (GQ)
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